Wednesday, March 5, 2014


You and I will likely disagree.  I can't name the issue, but it is likely, if not certain, that there is some topic that, if randomly brought up at an event or dinner party (gasp, rude!) would prompt us to argue.  It's possible we may even begin to see each other in a different light, even if for only a moment, based on that conflicting opinion.

The best compliment I get about this blog is "I don't always agree with you, but I like how you explain what made you think the way you do."  Admittedly, it is jarring to hear anyone abruptly state that they disagree with you, about some unstated topic, offered at some uncertain point in time, but the underlying compliment is worth the jar.  If I explain my basis, I offer a platform for understanding.

I enjoy a good argument.  Free from personal attacks and sarcastic ridicule, I love a good shake-down of a central issue.  But I also enjoy conversation.  As noted in a blog post a few weeks back, the root of conversation is "to convert" or "turn over".  Don't get suspicious about my conversational style.  I'm not trying to convert anyone.  But I will say that when a point of disagreement comes up in conversation, my most common question is "Why do you feel that way?"  If the response is, "I just do", we are on a quick track to talking about the Orioles, weather, or True Detective.  But more often than not, they will open up their thought process, personal experience, and, even, doubts for discussion.  In return, I will do the same.

You and I will likely disagree.  You cannot live without having personal experiences that push you outside of the mainstream on certain subjects.  There is no uniform truth (particularly not on public policy).  And we should be open to our differences.  It has occurred to me that we sometimes take agreement for granted in our antiquated belief that disagreement is rude.  This has blinded us to the personal compromises so many of us make when binding behind a cause.  Individually, our opinions do not reach past our fingertips.  Collectively, we can change the world.  Understand that no matter how large your "team of agreement" may be, there are people there reluctantly.  Act accordingly.

Thank you for sticking with me through disagreement.  We'll find that common ground once again.

Have a great Wednesday doing what you love!